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A Conversation: To Play or Not To Play

by karlyn on April 26, 2012

I got a text message from a friend of mine last night. Here is the conversation that followed, word for word:

Friend: I need some advice. Are you available?

Karlyn: Sure

Friend: I have an opportunity to make a power play at work. Get anything I want.

Karlyn: Ok…

Friend: I could fuck over everyone I know, doing so.

Karlyn: Don’t do that.

Friend: OK! Even if I have gripes?

Karlyn: Gripes can be dealt with but you shouldn’t hurt people deliberately.

Friend: Can make positive change?

Karlyn: You can make positive change without hurting people.

Friend: I could make them better, long run, but short term it will look like I’m a traitor.

Karlyn: They would never trust you again.

Friend: …If I get caught.

Karlyn: When people make power plays, they always get caught eventually. One way or another, it will come back to bite you.

Friend: Yeah…

Karlyn: Look for positive ways to make change…ways that will help everyone. But don’t hurt people. That never leads to the type of change you want.

Friend: I think I can do that. I’m not certain what I’d get out of it though.

Karlyn: When you put good vibes out, it comes back. Karma works both ways.


Here’s the deal guys: When you play games, it always comes back to bite you. Always. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but karma never forgets. There is never a good reason to throw someone under the bus for a temporary benefit. I don’t care how much a person has wronged you, how annoying they are, how much you disagree with them. If you have to resort to hurting them to get ahead, there is no better indication of the fact that you should spend more time focusing on your job. When you pull yourself out of the political gameplay and focus on your work, you’ll earn the benefits you seek. And you’ll be able to look yourself in the mirror every day.

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Andrew Careaga April 28, 2012 at 9:32 am

Good advice. I hope your friend listened.

The principle of karma goes along with the biblical principle that “you reap what you sow.” If you backstab and undermine, eventually you’ll suffer the same, and probably at a greater magnitude.


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